Roy and I recently celebrated 4 years of marriage and 10 years of being together. Nothing could have prepared us for what life had in store for us after saying the words "I do".
In 2013, when we began chatting via Twitter and Skyping each other every night (I know right, who even uses Skype anymore?), we never could have imagined that our life would've turned out like this. We couldn't have known that we would deal with loss, family health challenges, changes in professions and the extreme exhaustion that comes with having a child.
When Roy and I first started dating, we had just crossed 20 years of age, and although we considered ourselves mature back then, looking back, we were anything but that. However, we were definitely full of positivity and potential - I know 2013 Brin and Roy are definitely proud of the Brin and Roy today. One thing that I knew for sure from Day 1, was that Roy was the one I wanted to figure out this life thing with... and that feeling hasn't changed till this day.
So... on that note, my love...
I know I may not say it enough but thank you for being who you are.
Thank you for being an amazing life partner. You steady me when I question and doubt myself and remind me of the greatness I possess in myself.
Thank you for being honest. Not just saying what I want to hear but saying what I need to hear; it's refreshing. For showing me truth when I need it, grace when I don’t deserve it and discernment in my confusion.
Thank you for being the most selfless person I know.
Thank you for never complaining but stepping up and doing what needs to be done, even though sometimes I know you don't want to.
Thank you for being my safe place and a soft landing when life knocks me down.
Thank you for being an amazing father to our daughter - I know for a fact that Xary will never lack in anything,
Thank you for remembering the little things, like my favourite ice-cream when I have a tough day.
Thank you for standing by me no matter what.
This is definitely not all I am grateful for but if I am really to list out everything I'm grateful for in you, my love, this blog post will never end. With 10 years of R&B under our belt, I can say even more confidently that there's no one else I would do life with than you.
Married life is definitely not all sunflowers and Sunday evening slows. It's filled with diaper blow-outs and inside jokes and falling asleep mid-sentence. It's the little things, the big things and everything in between. I read somewhere that your spouse is "God's promise that you have a best friend forever" and since we've gotten married, I can confirm that it is definitely the truth!